When Cupid strikes


Physical attraction is just a part of being drawn to someone..connecting mentally and sharing common passions make up for a wholesome chemistry. Let's explore why we are drawn to
some people, and eventually fall in love.Unconscious fit Each of us has an unconscious capacity to scan another person's blueprint.The people we're most attracted to are those who have a blueprint that complements our own. We're looking for similarities of experience but, more significantly, we're also looking for differences.
Opposites Attract

The ideal partner will be someone who has struggled with similar life issues, but has developed another way of managing it.It seems that our other half is often our best chance of becoming
psychologically whole. Although no two relationships are ever the same, psychologists have noticed that there are some common types of unconscious fit.But most commonly we're looking for someone from whom we can learn; someone who has developed coping mechanisms that are different from our own.
Parent and child

This type of couple often has shared issues with dependency and trust. One partner copes with those issues by behaving in a childlike way.Their hidden belief is that if they remain insecure, dependent and needy their partner will look after them.Their partner takes on the role of parent and by doing so is able to deny their own needs for dependency as they're acted out by the other.
 
Master and slave

This couple has a problem with authority and control. One partner may feel very insecure if they're ever subordinate, so they're bossy and take charge of every household circumstance.Their partner, who fears responsibility, dutifully toes the line while smugly comparing what they describe as their laidback attitude to their partner's controlfreak attitude.

Distance and pursuit

Both partners are afraid of intimacy but have found their perfect match. The unspoken agreement is that one of them will keep chasing and nagging the other one for more intimacy.While the other runs away Occasionally, the chase will swap round.


Idol and worshipper


When one partner insists on putting the other on a pedestal, this often indicates an issue with competition.To avoid any form of comparison, both partners unconsciously agree to play this game. There are two other common types of fit based on finding a partner who has a similar problem and a similar way of coping.

Babes in the wood

You may have seen this couple around. They look alike and often wear matching sweaters. They share the same interests and, more importantly, they dislike the same things. They keep anything bad out of their perfect relationship by joining forces
against the big, bad world outside.

Cat and dog

On the surface these partners look as though they should never have met.They argue incessantly over anything. They avoid intimacy by living in a war zone.You may see elements of your relationship in these types. As we progress through our relationships, it's common to slip into a certain pattern of behaviour.For example, in a time of illness and vulnerability you may act out the parent and child model, while many couples become like babes in the wood following the birth of a child.

 
Good or bad chemistry? All fits serve a psychological purpose designed to protect ourselves from discomfort. Most couples aren't aware of their fit until something happens to change it. We all grow and mature, our needs change and our relationships need to adapt to those changes.Problems may start when one or both partners feel they are no longer able to communicate their feelings and alter patterns of behaviour.
 
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