The ultimate interpersonal commitment is to forgive and forget any residual thoughts that interfere with affinity and respect. The benefit you get from commitment is peace of mind on both sides. Commitment prepares the mind for full involvement and guards against distraction.
Distorted focus.


Focusing on the problems and defects in a relationship makes sense for evaluating
the relationship, but makes no sense for enjoying it. A focus on shortcomings and problems will sour your perspective and compromise the experience. After a while, you will have trouble seeing anything of value in the relationship. Most problems occur when each person is concentrating on what’s missing in the other person. When you focus on what you love about someone, that focus will grow in your relationship.
Look for the clues.

When our relationships are less than wonderful they hold the opportunity to know ourselves better. Every niggle and discomfort is a clue to a dysfunctional belief, or addictive demand.

It is these ego-based fears that cripple our real potential.
Lessons in harmony.

To learn to live in harmony with all your relationships is to learn to live in harmony with yourself. When we truly accept ourselves, we naturally attract loving, harmonious relationships with others.

Our most important relationship we have is with ourselves. Our combined relationship of Spirit, Mind and Body.
Understanding differences.

Different age groups, different social groups, and different people at different times in their lives all place different values on those separate elements which contribute to a relationship. It is with the understanding and acceptance of these differences that lasting relationships are built.

Marriage of convenience.
Opposites attract when one partner sees a strength in another which will compliment whatever is lacking in the other. One’s attachment to another based on one’s insecurity is almost always a recipe for conflict at some time in the future.

Validation and comfort in numbers.
Lacking 100% acceptance of our self, we sometimes seek validation of our values and are attracted to people with similar attitudes and values to our own. A dependency on others may bolster feelings of security, but what will happen if they decide to move away?

A dynamic duo!
How many couples bond together by forming a we that is just a stronger, tougher version of me? The rationale being that if survival is paramount in a dangerous world, two are better at it than one. Like an individual, a couple can pursue money and power, or at the very least, security and comfort. Love gets left behind because it wont bring material rewards, at least not as clearly as unloving tactics will. Money and power require toughness, the willingness to fight for what you want.

You are better off having a killer instinct, not a loving heart, if you pursue these things. Security and comfort also require looking out for number one. In this case, one has become two — nothing else has changed.
Levels of consciousness in a relationship.

At the ego’s lower level of consciousness, two people cannot want
exactly the same thing all the time. Yet at levels of higher consciousness, they cannot help but want the same thing all the time. Your ego wants material things, predictable conclusions, continuity, security, and the prerogative to be right when others are quite obviously wrong! Each person brings into a marriage a complex bundle of ego needs; the husband may be loving and kind, but his ego demands that life turns out according to certain expectations, and the same may be true for his wife. A relationship based on need is not love.

Where did the magic go?
When relationship start to lose their sparkle, one question often asked is, "What happened to the person I thought I knew?" In most partnerships of egos, where need fulfillment is the prime objective, what you get to know is mostly personality, and personality is an act. It’s difficult to continue the act all of the time, and each partner begins to see the truth of the other when masks are being left off more and more. The masks are diligently worn with full paintwork for others to see, but there is little mystique left between the former doe-eyed lovers. The partnership becomes predictable and mechanical.

Relationships.
When you let go of the expectation that your relationship will make you happy, you can absolutely count on your relationship to give you lots of opportunities for conscious  spiritual growth.
 
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