Secrets Men keep: what your man really wants to tell you

Admit It You beautiful Damsels; You asked your girlfriends. You tried to read his mind. You tried to read between the lines. And when all else failed, you tried to read the writing on the wall. And yet you still have no clue about what your man really wants. But your guessing games are over.These are your man's secrets, they say, the truth about sex, the truth about how he really sees you, the truth about what makes him tick and the truth about what really ticks him off.

But before you read any further, the informants caution that you should proceed only if you can handle the truth. If not, they say that perhaps you should put those psychic reading glasses back on and go back to guessing.

"KEEP YOUR APPEARANCE UP. VISUAL STIMULATION IS VITAL & SOME EYE CANDIES."
Remember His testosterone Multiplies with your Visual Effects

Time changes the outward appearance, and no one expects you to remain like a photo in a frame. What really turns a man on is the
fact that you are making an effort to look good for him. That lets him know that he's just as important to you as those special occasions as those special dolled-up for.But when you let your appearance slide by skipping a pedicure here and there or perhaps allowing the gradual weight gain to hold your sexier outfits at bay, your man reads just the opposite. He may not say anything (heaven knows the last thing he wants is to spend a night on the cold sofa), but he's watching you like a hawk--so, yes, he notices your self-neglect, and he doesn't like it."Too often we're told as men that when our women get out of shape and unattractive we're supposed to accept that and say, 'We love you just the way you are. It doesn't matter how you look,'" says Love Experts. "That is what love is supposed to be about, but at the same time, women have the responsibility, just as men do, to stay attractive for their partners and for themselves. And men really want women to know that."

So make a resolution to ditch that faded gown and buy a hot new lacy number which men find hot to open up to see the treasures women has to offer so that he could devour you right away, and stop prancing around the house with rollers in your hair. And take it a step further by making an appointment with a fitness trainer--and keep it.

"DON'T HESITATE TO INITIATE"

Your man wants you to put on your red dress and those high heels, pop in that Marvin Gaye CD--you know the one and run after him like a crazed bull that's loose in a China shop.

That's not what they say in your presence, but it's all they talk about within the sacred wails of the barbershop. So ask him his Hot Spots, where you could play with him & he becomes eager to empty/transfer all his energy in you so that you achieve real orgasm & not fake ones.

"I'd go to work, come home, shower, and then I'd try to snuggle with her, and the routine was getting really old, really fast," says Robert, a Norfolk-area newlywed. "She never hits on me, and she's my wife. The women I work with hit on me, strangers hit on me, but my own wife doesn't do it. I'm starting to believe that she doesn't want me as much as I want her."

Men want to be pursued, and having a woman flip the script is a major turn-on, some say. "I'd love to come home to a sexy, bad girl," jokes Michael from Chicago. "I mean, she's a good girl, but she's my bad girl at home." So Spice up your tongue Both ways. 

"Because men treasure their women's approval and applause, it's hard for them to embrace the kind of woman who hovers over him like a helicopter to instruct him or improve him everyday,". "He'd much rather dazzle her by his own efforts rather than because he simply did what he was told. Whenever the relationship becomes a momma/ little boy one, expect the little boy to do what all little boys eventually do, pack up and leave momma."

You must be yourself. Nothing I've said here indicates that you should abandon who you really are. All the men who were interviewed admitted, although reluctantly, that what they want is, in fact, a contradiction: Men want a woman who is a strong and independent go-getter, but they also want a woman who knows how to be Spicy, Playfull, soft and cuddly from time to time.

"BE CAREFUL WITH MY EGO, ESPECIALLY IN THE BEDROOM."

Despite the stereotypes, your man is not a sex machine, and he is very concerned about his ability to please you. If, for whatever reason, a night of passion isn't fulfilling for the both of you, you should never, ever, taunt him,tease him or quarrel with him about it otherwise he may practice his sexual skills elsewhere if things go too far as he becomes vunlerable to seduction elsewhere & you will get left overs.

"He's afraid of failing at sex, so please be aware
that you must be kind with him,". Help Him know his targets gently which turns you on, Encourage Your Adam, how to please His Eve. "Men will get into a situation where they are not able to perform, and then they are freaked out for the next two or three times until they are able to please you--and this happens to almost 99 percent of the men out there. The worst thing you can do is ask, 'What's wrong with you?'

"You must be tender with his ego because from that point on, he will have some anxiety."

"STOP BRINGING UP THE PAST."

You'll remember that gloomy day for the rest of your life; the day you caught him red-handed (doing whatever it was that he did), and you're not going to let him forget that you caught him OR that you were humane enough to forgive him.
So, if you did, in fact, agree to forgive and forget, your man has one question:

"Why do you keep bringing it up?" asks Damon from Long Beach, Calif. "Every time something goes wrong, you reach back into the past, one, two, maybe even five years ago, and try to tie-in my new mistake with what I did back then. It's not fair and it's childish."

Relationship experts explain that some women tend to bite their tongues, and in effect, turn the other cheek to their lovers' transgressions because they want to salvage the relationship. But if the mate's unacceptable actions keep piling up, sure enough, she's going to read him the riot act, loaded with past incidences of bad behavior.

"Sometimes women can't express some of their disappointments, so they choose to stand by their man," Dr. Gardere says. "And they tend to hold on to a lot of resentment after biting their tongue for so long."

But you should know that your man doesn't want to relive the past; instead, he wants you to focus on his potential to do better by you, explains Dr. Elmore.

"Let's focus on the future, where your man has the opportunity to dazzle you with his excellence" he explains, "rather than on the past where he may have messed up. Men tend to gravitate toward success and distance themselves from failure"

DECODING YOUR MEN

For the first time in history, relationship experts and Brothers from coast to coast are commenting on Brotherspeak, some of the most misunderstood phrases in the history of male and female relationships. Below is a guideline to help you decode Brotherspeak, and hopefully, the next time your man is talking, you'll have a clearer understanding of what he's really talking about.

"I'LL CALL YOU."

CONTEXT: ON AN AWKWARD FIRST DATE, OR AT THE TAIL END OF A RELATIONSHIP

TRANSLATION: "Don't hound me for another date or any future contact. I'm not really sure that this is something that I want to continue," says relationship author Nick Chiles.

CONTEXT: AT A FIRST MEETING

TRANSLATION: "Chances are good that he will call you, sometime next week," explains Dr. Gardere. "But don't sit by the phone, go on with your life." Or he may not call at all, says Tyrone, 29, who adds: "Sometimes men just want to collect a phone number to make sure they still have it going on, and they never intended to call in the first place. Getting your number was the prize."

I LIKE YOU."

CONTEXT: IF HE SAYS THIS TO YOU AFTER YOU'VE PROFESSED YOUR UNDYING LOVE FOR HIM

TRANSLATION: "He's not serious about you, he's just playing around," says James, 46. "But you should be thankful that this man is being honest with you; some men will claim to love you, too, just because they know that's what you expect to hear."

CONTEXT: IF WITHOUT ENCOURAGEMENT, HE LOOKS AT YOU AND SAYS, "I REALLY LIKE YOU."

TRANSLATION: "He's giving you some feedback without having to take the ultimate step [of saying I love you]," says Nick Chiles. "I really like you may also mean that an 'I love you,' may come down the line," says Eddie, 33: "He's definitely sizing you up for a long-term relationship; we don't usually say such [sentimental] things unless you're a keeper."

"WE'RE MOVING TOO FAST."

"When men say that, they mean just that," says Dr. Elmore. "He's sensing that your expectations of him are beyond what he is prepared to fulfill at that point. And the last thing he wants is to fail at fulfilling her expectations."

TRANSLATION: Don't buy that wedding gown just yet.

"IT ONLY HAPPENED ONCE."

CONTEXT: AFTER YOU'VE CAUGHT HIM CHEATING.

TRANSLATION: "It means that he was weak, made a mistake, and that he's remorseful," argues Dr. Gardere. "And the reality is that he cheated more than once, yet since he got busted, he will only admit to that one incident." More On Relationships
 

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