True Love In Our Times
In the coming centuries people will choose their friends, husbands ,wives and work partners very carefully because they will realize that they cannot progress on the path of spiritual unfoldment at a normal speed if they make a wrong choice, or continuously fail in choosing correctly.
Many decades will pass before the human masses come to the conclusion that they must use pure discrimination when they choose their friends and marriages partners. All the failures, disappointments , worries, agonies and conflicts that we create in our homes occur because we did not make or are not making the right choices.To have discrimination, one must have measures by which he can easily determine if he or his partner is on the right track. Without measures one cannot discriminate and choose correctly. To discriminate means to see exactly what the values of things are and then choose the best.These measures are within us. Sometimes our measures are imposed on us through outside pressures or subliminal suggestions. But in the depth of our hearts we have the true measures of life, which must be brought to the surface and applied in all circumstances of our lives.Only with true measures we can further our own evolution and the evolution of others. If we put into action the measures which abide in our hearts, we will have highly evolved marriages and highly-evolved children as a result.If in the beginning we make the right choice in Friendship first and then as a result marriage because of our ability to discriminate, the rest will be easy for us.We will not only enjoy our partnership, but we will make it an instrument for perfection
1-Look in the heart of your co-worker, friend, spouse to see if he has love for all living beings.This is fundamental .If he hates people, or any animal, plant, or any innocent life-form ,there is a defect in his consciousness and in the future you will have trouble with him. You want him to love you and if he does not have inclusive love, it means he is not a wholesome person. He has cleavages in his consciousness , which one day will affect your relationship.Most of our problems of our homes are based on sectarian love "I love you but I hate her or them". Such words are a sign that one day you can be one of those whom he hates.Inclusiveness and synthesis are signs of inner health, psychological health.Now ,try and see how many people, ideas or things you hate. If hate dwells in you, it will grow and involve you in its trap.
2-Look in the heart of your partner to see if he is inclusive in consciousness or has the sense of synthesis.An inclusive person does not hate any cultural value, but makes his own "honey" from all diverse expressions of culture. People always have the right to reject certain religions, cultures , educational and even scientific expressions. They make evaluations, but do not have preconditioned viewpoints.You need a partner who is tolerant, who does not have fixed ideas about things and who is open and discriminative to all new ideas and viewpoints. An intolerant person will be a burden in your shoulders any time you take progressive steps.
3-Look in the heart of your partner to see if he has compassion.
Compassion is the ability to look at problems from both sides with equal interest, detachment and the intense desire to help both sides. Compassion is not emotional love but an inclusive interest to understand both sides of any problem or event.Compassion not only understands, but also enlightens and leads to the highest interests of people concerned.We are told that compassion is a law. According to that law, we must observe all that happens without excitement, hatred, confusion or attachment.People need compassionate individuals around them. It is among such individuals that one can grow and unfold.
4- Look in the heart of your partner to see if there is a permanent love for Beauty.
Those who really love Beauty are advanced people, and their companionship is a great joy. If your partner is ugly in his or her thoughts, if he acts in ugly ways, if his words and expressions are ugly, he will cost you a fortune.Love for Beauty brings success and happiness to our homes and creates right human relationships. Love of Beauty is a sign that one has a refined consciousness, a consciousness which is harmonious within itself.
Love for Beauty should be unconditional .You must love the beautiful culture or art of your enemy. You must see Beauty everywhere. The increase of and appreciation of Beauty can create a new and higher consciousness in humanity. Without Beauty, people turn into animals.One who is interested in spiritual growth cannot live with a person who does not believe in Beauty. If one does not love Beauty, jealousy develops when he meets Beauty in any form. Jealousy is the absence of Beauty in the heart. If a person loves Beauty in nature, in arts, in man, he can be a good partner, but if he hates Beauty and lives in ugliness, it is better to postpone your Friendship until the sense of Beauty unfolds in his heart.
Continued...... True Love Part-2
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